I am officially Very Fed Up.
Very Fed Up with a certain branch of feminism.
A certain branch of feminism that seems to think that women who choose to stay at home to have children are "letting the side down."
Now, I have no problem with women going to work. I have no problem with women going back to work after they have children. Absolutely no problem.
What I have a problem with is the women who make the choice to stay at home to raise a child being told they're letting the side down.
By other people who brand themselves "proper feminists."
To those women, I should probably give a great speech about understanding choices and adapting, etc, etc.
Instead, I'm just going to say this:
Feminism, at its' heart, is about women having the same freedom as men. And that freedom involves making the choice about what they do with their careers and children.
And if they choose to stay at home with the children, that is their own damn business.
You don't want them to judge you for going out to work? Don't judge them for staying at home.
And no, they are not "letting the side down." The only person "letting the side down" is you. You and your small-minded, prejudiced, smug, arrogant, judgemental, truly pathetic excuse for an argument.
You are the type of people that give feminists a bad name.
Woman can choose to go back to work. They can choose to stay home. They can choose to do both.
But guess what?
It's their choice.
And if you're the type of feminist who believes it shouldn't be their choice? I've got news for you. Your feminism isn't feminism. It's judgemental and exclusionary and you, in your own way, are just as bad as those people who insist women should be the homemakers.
So shove that down your trapshoot.